Despite the name of my blog, I'm not the perfect mom. I'm on a journey consisting of one lesson, failure, or success after another.
Each day is a fresh, new challenge in this blessing of motherhood. Some are joy-filled, others tear-filled. One thing is for sure. Having happy, healthy kids (and mama) is a reason to rejoice - always!
If you're a loyal reader, you know my mission with Christian SuperMom is to share the heart of my journey through life and motherhood in hopes of encouraging and inspiring you along the way.
Today I hope to do so through absolute authenticity.
This is me.
And I believe, many of you as well. So don't judge, okay. 
Here's a few of my Motherhood Confessions...
I’m Selfish
Motherhood has left me with very little to call my own. Very little time for me. Very little privacy. Very little sleep. Very little fill-in-the-blank.
Sometimes I just need something to be mine. So, yes, I’m that mom who quickly snaps “no, mine!” when little hands reach for the Ranch coated crouton on my salad or a drink of the ice water I'm eager to gulp down.
I’m Not Consistent
My only consistent reaction most days is lack of patience. When it comes to discipline, my kiddos never really know what to expect. Will I let it slide or will they be punished?
I know it's important to have clear rules defined and consistently enforce consequences when the rules are broken. I’m a work in-progress. As are my children. Sometimes I don't want to be the "bad guy."
Is it really all that wrong for them to have a healthy fear of how their unpredictable mama will respond?
I Dread Talking On the Phone
This makes me a bad friend, daughter, and sister. But really I’m doing a service to the person on the other end of the call.
My kids are great, and so well behaved until a phone is up to my ear.
Then it’s screaming, fighting, pulling hair, tattling, crying, interrupting, and begging for food. Don’t get me started on the baboons they become on a video call. If I haven’t called you recently, please don’t take it personal. I haven't called anyone "just because" since becoming a mother.
I Don’t Spend Every Waking Moment With My Kids
Our days once consisted of trips to the playground, fun community classes, plenty of arts and crafts, and mommy-daughter dance parties galore.
Then I had a second child.
It was shocking how quickly this mama got behind on basic household responsibilities. Add personal passions of marriage, blogging, running, photography, gardening, and ministry to the mix and I have one very packed schedule.
Thankfully, my little lovelies are still thriving without being attached to my hip 24/7.
I Miss Wearing High Heels
If I could wear high heels every day, I would. They don't go well with my sweats and greasy-hair mom ponytail, though. No longer are the Southern California dressed for success, classy, yet sexy corporate attire working-mom days.
Now I'm lucky to get a shower, fix my hair, or put any kind of war paint on before the hubby gets home from work. (Refer to busy schedule mentioned above)
Meanwhile, gorgeous shoes await in my closet...right next to the hip-hugger jeans I don't fit into.
My House Is A Constant Mess
The hubby and I have nicknamed our children Hurricane Abby and Tornado Faith. They have amazing imaginations. Therefore, their "game" never ends for clean-up time.
How can they clean up the naked Barbies all over the floor when they are planning to give them makeovers at the beauty salon they've just set up, utilizing every hair tie, barrette, headband, comb, brush, and styling tool our family owns.
I go from one room to the next, picking up toys and other junk all day long. And it's still a mess at the end of the day.
But my kids are enjoying life.
I've Given Myself Mommy Time-Outs
Pregnant and hormonal, I once took a mommy time-out from my daughter's out-of-control, hitting and kicking tantrum by escaping to our master walk-in closet.
Following closely behind, she was distracted out of her tantrum with the confusion as to why mommy was hiding in the closet. I knew she was safe because she was banging on the door for me to let her in.
I took two minutes to breathe deeply and pray for patience. Then we started anew with hugs and giggles. Mommy time-outs can be a good thing.
I Believe in Fast Food...Sometimes
I know it's horribly unhealthy, but sometimes I just need to feed my kids (and hubby) something quick and easy. I try to avoid McDonalds and Burger King, but will cave into Wendy's, Subway, and Take-Out Pizza.
I only recently started making homemade breads, growing my own produce, and have plans to do some canning and freezing before the end of the gardening season.
Oh, and I don't buy sugar-free or low-calorie food products because I feel sugar substitutes are more unhealthy than sugar itself.
I'm Very Protective of My Kids
Call me paranoid. I'm not comfortable allowing sleepovers, playing outside unattended, riding bikes without helmets and pads, or dropping my kids off at a play date and then leaving. (At least not without knowing the family very well)
I know as they grow, I'll have to adjust my parenting style to something more freeing and flexible, but for now it is what it is. I also have zero tolerance when my child is being bullied.
Their safety is far more important to me than whether or not they're mad or embarrassed.
I Thank God For This Blessing
Not a day goes by where I don't stop to thank God for trusting me with the beautiful children He has blessed me with. I absolutely love being a mom and wouldn't trade this job for any other.
Now it's your turn!
Come on, fellow mama's... I know you have a confession or two of your own.
What Motherhood Confession Do You Want To Share?
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LOL I had to laugh when I read this as I understand completely!! I wanted a daughter so bad (now I have 2) But after having my 3 sons and then when my daughter was born, i had no idea she would whine so much! I totally agree on the mommy time outs, especially being a homeschool mommy and mother to 6. Although I have no doubt in my mind that God wants me to be a sahm and homeschool my children sometimes I wonder, "Am I crazy???" LOL But it is a blessing in and of itself! Even as we speak...my daughter is whining about her paper on the floor!!! LOL LOL Somebody should have told me that girls were more "emotional" than my boys! LOL
Mystiqua, glad to make you giggle!
Ya, I ask my husband all the time why he never warned me about how much work it is to raise kids (he has a 24 year old daughter from a previous marriage). His response..."cause you wouldn't have agreed to it, and I didn't want you to miss out on this amazing blessing!" He's so smart! 
oh my goodness rosann, this is my favorite post of yours i have read! i think it's probably because i can sooo relate! i would confess all of the above!
i, too, am selfish, however, most of my "me time" is taking time away from my kids to work. i work from home so i can be with them but i need to be away from them sometimes to actually get anything done! i am so mean that i will go outside while my older son watches my 4 year old twins (he's 14). it tortures them but i need, neeeeeed, some quiet to get done what i need to get done. in the end it is work but it's also to connect with that part of my own perspective that isn't gyrating from my ears bleeding and my peripheral vision feeling assaulted.
i hate talking on the phone too! and i am girl, an only child girl, most of my life consisted of talking on the phone for at least a couple hours a day. my mom doesn't get it, she gets really mad at me but seriously, i can't focus when my kids are awake and when they are asleep i have a million things to do, sitting quietly tops that list : )
i spend so much time cleaning up yogurt off the floor, doing dishes, cleaning the same messes over and over, i never get to the real cleaning. no matter how much laundry i do there are still piles. i actually just cleaned, really cleaned, my fridge the other day and i swear it made me feel like a new woman!
i buy way too many prepared meals from trader joes and i it's something that makes me feel terrible, both literally and figuratively, but sometimes it's that or a long relaxed walk with my boys . . . the walks just win me over.
mommy time outs are the best! i usually find when my kids are "irritating" me it's because they have a need i am not addressing. parenting is WORK! so sometimes taking a moment to realize, "i should set up an activity for them," or "we need to get out of the house," or "ahh! i have only given them pirate booty and bananas today!" can really make it clear that there is a solution to the madness and it's usually one that lies in my hands. okay, always. mommy timeouts make me a much better mother : ) goodness knows i need them just to formulate a single thought sometimes.
Thanks for this great post!! i love love it!
Aww, thank you so much Christine. I can SO relate to cleaning up so many messes my house rarely sees a deep clean. Thanks for sharing your confessions with us, too.
When I became a mommy, I never thought this would happen to me but you know, I am EXACTLY guilty of some of these confessions but I don't look at them as weaknesses!! I think you rock as a mom and your kids are lucky to have you even in flats, because you are protective of them, and even BECAUSE your house is a mess because you teach them to love themselves, family and most of all God.
Jacqueline, your kindness always fills my bucket. Thank you for stopping by. You always make me smile!
OMG! We are so on the same page. I try not to have guilt about not being perfect. In fact when I screw up, I'm harshest on myself. I'm also not always the best example for my kids but I get to show them what it's like to be human, flawed. It helps them appreciate Jesus' sacrifice on the cross all the more. I love your authenticity and hope you'll drop by and read a post or two from time to time. God bless you in Jesus name!
Oh Emiliana, we are always our own worst critic, aren't we? I agree with you. It is good for our kids to see flaws in us, so they know they don't have to be perfect either. God bless you too, my new friend.
You're human. And you're post is so timely for me. I've been feeling like such a horrible mom lately. And it's nice to know I'm not alone. I got a feeling you're a wonderful mom!
Donna, I appreciate your visit and your comment. You are definitely not alone, my friend. And I have a feeling you're pretty great at motherhood too. A friend once shared with me that if we didn't feel guilty or worry about screwing up our kids, THEN we'd have to question whether or not we were a good mom. Every good mom worries about being a good mom.
I loved this post and the genuiness and honesty behind it. I have so many confessions it would become a book but here are a few. I want "ME" time because I get fed up and frustrated over so many people wanting the giver in me. I want my own identity (I know I have it-just some times it feels like others don't want me to..grr). I feel guilty when I don't spend the amount of time I feel that I should with my kids because I want to wear high heels too. That's a few of mine...Like I said, I could write a book here. = )
Irish
Irish, thank you so much for your sweet comment. I could write a book on my confessions too...I have at least two more similar posts brewing in my head right now. Lol! I totally get you on being a giver. That's me too. It's hard to say No when you feel compelled to be a people pleaser, huh?
Rosann, I can totally relate!!! I seriously dread talking on the phone!!!!
Thanks Becky! So good to know I'm not alone.
Rosann - the only thing I couldn't have written myself was about high heels. Even though I'm not even 5' tall, I just have never worn heels. This summer I did find a pair of wedges that I've fallen in love with so maybe those heels aren't too far behind - though I doubt it would end well if I wore them while lugging the baby in the carseat! Thank you for your honesty!
Lol! Wedges count as heels too, Audra. Be careful walking in those things... Haha!
Rosann, I completely identified with every aspect of this post. I'm sharing it in a mom's group on Facebook that I participate in.
Thank you so much for sharing this, Shannon. I really appreciate you!
I knew we were kindred. I just knew it!
I could echo so many of yours, but I'll try to add my own here to help you feel "normal"
let's see...I've been known to do the eye roll I detest so much. I've eaten my son's dessert before and told him we were out of those amazing tiny chocolate covered ice cream cones trader joe's sells. and I've been known to resort to the TV. ::SIGH::
one thing I've learned with motherhood: Grace abounds!
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Lol! The eye roll is so funny. I do that too!! And then when my daughters do it, I make them stop and say "I love you," to the person who got the eye roll. I'm so bad! And yes...TV...my kiddos are watching it right now. OH..and dessert. When my daughters don't eat much of their meal and then ask for dessert I'll tell them "no, you didn't eat your dinner" and then I'll scoop of bowl of ice cream for the hubs and I and we eat it in front of them. Sometimes they cry. Other times they start eating their dinner so they can earn dessert. I do feel a little bit guilty eating it in front of them. The puppy dog eyes I get, too... it's awful.
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