Prioritizing What’s Really Important In Life

dreamstimefree 2106573 533x800 199x300 Prioritizing Whats Really Important In LifeIt's been an emotional week in our home.   Not long ago I wrote a post Talking To Your Children About Death And Suffering.  Little did I realize, this week would be the week I'd have to have more of those conversations with my daughter.   And come to grips with my own questions too.

Monday during lunch at my daughters elementary school, an eight year old girl laughed with her friends, until she took a bite of her hotdog and began to choke on it.  Literally.  The school faculty quickly cleared all the children out of the lunchroom while they awaited the arrival of paramedics and desperately tried to save this little girl.

She would soon be life flighted to the closest Children's hospital, induced into a coma, and lie in critical care for a day or two before her little body, having suffered too much brain and heart damage, would finally give up.  She passed away Thursday evening.

Such an awful tragedy.

As a mother of two young daughters, my heart aches for this girls parents.  I can't even begin to imagine the pain, the loss,… the utter shock they are no doubt feeling.

Worse, I can't help wondering, what if it were my child?

What if I had sent my child off to school that day only to have the kiss on the cheek and "have a good day at school" encounter be my last with her?

It's every parents' nightmare, isn't it?

I've been surprisingly emotional over this event and I didn't even know this beautiful little girl.  I had never met her, however, after seeing her picture I know I've seen her at the school before.  Perhaps during the after school pickup when the kids are walked outside in an orderly fashion by their teachers.  Or maybe she was in a local Girl Scout troop. I'm not sure.  I just know I've seen her before.   Which makes it real to me.  Not just a story in the news, but a real human life taken much too early.

It doesn't seem fair.  I can't comprehend how or why God would take a child in such a horrific way.

How then do I answer my daughter's similar questions?

I haven't been able to pull myself away from giving her tons of hugs all week long.  She's been a real trooper, despite the sadness.  It helps that she didn't personally know the girl either.  But it's obviously a big topic of discussion at the school.  I'm glad the students only had half a day yesterday and are now enjoying a long four day weekend.

I guess the way I've been able to cope with it, is to remind myself somehow, someway, God will bring good from this tragedy.   I may never know what that good is, but I need to trust that He knows what He's doing.

The reality is, life is short.  Sooner or later, everyone dies.  We each have a God-given purpose during our stay in this world.   When we've accomplished that purpose, He calls us home.  And when we choose wisely, home, is a beautiful, jaw-dropping, joy-filled, life that lasts forever in His kingdom.

So what's my lesson in all of this?

My eyes have been opened that perhaps I'm not spending the gift of each day with my time prioritized appropriately.  It's time to create a plan and discover the healthy balance that is glorifying to God.  In this season of life, I'm not just a writer.

I'm a mother.  I'm a wife.

I'm a friend.  I'm a daughter.  I'm a sister.

I'm God's child.

I'm not just serving God through my writing.  I'm serving Him in the way I relate with my family and friends.  Am I too busy for them?  Have I lost sight of the value of quality time spent together with real people in my life?

God is speaking loud and clear to my heart.  He's setting me on a new course.  I can see His mighty plan beginning to take root in my mind.  All for His glory.

As a result, I have a new project formulating!

Stay tuned…

What's your greatest challenge when it comes to prioritizing your time?

 

Rosannsig Prioritizing Whats Really Important In Life

 

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Rosann is wife to the man of her dreams and stay-at-home mom to two delightful little girls. Her heart's greatest passions are loving her family well, long-distance running, writing, and pretty much anything dark chocolate peanut butter. Rosann loves to encourage women whose husbands are in a season of unemployment, at her other website UnEmployedFaith.com. Her writing inspiration comes from a strong desire to glorify God while sharing the heart of her journey through a life of faith. She is also the Author of two books - UnEmployed Faith: Clothing Yourself in Strength and Perseverance Through his Season of Unemployment, and Refuel Your Inner SuperMom: A Practical Guide to Getting Your Groove Back.
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21 Comments

  1. Abby

    Looking forward to hearing more about your new project.

    What a terrible tragedy! Really helps put things in perspective though. At church this past Wenesday night, my pastor preached that although God hates sickness and suffereing and pain, He is able to use it to teach and prepare and guide, to many times, show us how much He loves us. Through this poor girl's story, He is using you.

    So strange though. I had a conversation with my own daughter a few evenings ago about Heaven and who goes there and why we go there. Not really a topic that had ever occured to me that I would have to discuss with my children...

    • Rosann

      Abby, I'm surprised that I've had to have this uncomfortable conversation with my daughter at such a young age. But then, we live right next door to the funeral home my husband's family owns and runs. (This is where the little girls funeral will be held too) Death has been a topic of discussion with her, but it was easy to have it when I could say "when you get old, you eventually die" and leave it at that. (She's actually watched out the window a time or two as the ambulance has dropped off bodies over the past two years) Now the conversation is becoming more complicated though. Now she understands that death can happen at any time, to anyone. What I don't want, is for her to live in fear. I don't want her to become like the little girl in the movie My Girl. Lol! I can't wait to share more details of my new project, but right now it's all coming together in my mind. I will share soon, though. I promise. :-)

  2. Gina

    How awful. God bless that little girl. Really makes you stop and think.

    • Rosann

      I know Gina. It's just tragic. But eye-opening. Thanks for your visit! :-)

  3. Kathy

    I'm so sorry you and your family and community are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you all and especially the girls family. There is something so random and senseless about these deaths I can not wrap my mind around it.

    The very scary truth is we really never do know when will be the last time we will have with anyone. Managing my time, making sure that I'm covering all my responsibilities, nurturing my relationship with my husband, my children, my parents, my sisters, my friends, my community are all things I struggle with. As well as work on a relationship with myself, and God.

    I have felt for the longest time that through all the work I do serving and helping others that I was working on my relationship with God, but I see now that I have to give myself the time in prayer in meditation as I can give more freely, and have something to give. This is the one thing I am focusing the most on right now. Taking care of myself by checking in with God. Slowing down, not stopping, but slowing. I rush so much in everything.

    Wishing you much peace this weekend, and some wonderful time with your family. Much luck with whatever it is you are working on. Much love!

    • Rosann

      Oh, Kathy. How I can relate! I rush through so much and God is constantly telling me to slow down. I'm so driven though. There's so much I want to accomplish and feel like I can do to be His hands and feet in this life. There just never seems to be enough hours in the day to do it all - or do it all WELL. I will be praying for you as you determine your best course of action. As always, you know you can bounce anything off me, even if it's just the need for a second opinion. Your friendship is such a blessing to me. Thank you for that! :-)

      Love you,
      ~Rosann

  4. Christina

    Thank you for sharing this. When things like this happen, I tend to really struggle. I don't talk much about my own relationship with God, I know. But deaths like this really make me question things. I love how you can be so certain that there will be some good come out of this senseless death of a beautiful 8 year old girl.

    It does, however, make me also see the importance of prioritizing things in my life. As mothers, we keep so many balls bouncing that it is easy to lose focus of the most important things. I can't imagine the pain of losing one of my children, or the regret I would feel knowing that the last moments I spent with them I was too busy on the computer, or cleaning, or reading to have really been present in the moment with them.

    • Rosann

      I'm not sure how I would respond if it were my own child. Would I really be so certain that He would bring good from it? I don't know. I think my unfathomable pain would probably fog my ability to see why God would allow such a tragedy. Maybe not.

      Romans 8:28 says, And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him...

      This doesn't mean everything that happens to us is good, but that He's able to bring something good from every bad circumstance, to fulfill His purpose. Sometimes the "good" isn't revealed or fully recognized until years later. Sometimes it's just between God and the people directly involved. A private affair of the heart and mind transforming in some way.

      In no way does my family's journey through unemployment compare with the death of a child, but now that I'm on the other side of that journey, I can easily look back and see all the good that came from something terribly painful and difficult.

      You're so right. As mothers, we are always busy, rushing, or otherwise consumed in something. What I'm trying to come to grips with is, what's the answer? Do we have to give up one thing, to be great at another? Or can we have the best of both worlds?

      I so appreciate your visit and your comment. :-)

      Hugs,
      ~Rosann

  5. Tracy

    What a horrific tragedy.

    It's hard to strike a balance between explaining things to our kids, or warning them of dangers, and scaring them. We unfortunately had to "explain" death to our son when he was almost 3 as my father-in-law passed suddenly of a massive heart attack. He had several God questions for awhile after that.

    I actually told myself I wouldn't turn on the computer today...just the iPad for occasional check-ups, as I want to spend the whole day being in the moment with my kids.

  6. Rosann

    Tracy, you're right. It's a very fine line with explaining death to our kids without scaring them. Good luck with your "day off" from the computer. I know it's always easier said than done. But enjoy those beautiful kiddos! :-)

  7. Meredith

    Wow, really makes you think...hold your child just a little longer and give them just one more kiss. I really have not had a conversation about death with my kids. My middle child has Asperger's and frequently talks about death. I have left that conversation to his psychologist, who then directs me as to what to say...this is for a completely different reason, though. Recently, my mom had a scare with nodules on her thyroid. I really didn't know how to tell my kids or if I should tell them. I decided not to tell them and praise God they were non-cancerous. But with both of my parents in delicate health, I know it's a conversation I need to have.

    • Rosann

      Meredith, thanks for your comment and visit. Yes...fully take in every precious moment with your children and loved ones. Keeping you and your family in my prayers. I know Asperger's can be frustratingly heart wrenching to deal with and it's good that you have a psychologist to help direct you in how best to handle difficult conversations with your child. So glad your mom's health scare turned out to be non-cancerous. Praise God!

      Hugs,
      ~Rosann

  8. Mystiqua Kimble

    Oh my...I will praying for the parents as well...this just grieves my heart. I have thought the same thing which is why I am set on prioritizing so that I can spend time with my children and not be frazzled by all the tasks I need to complete for the day. That is another reason I will be doing my binder series (for organization) cause I need it bad!

    • Rosann

      Mystiqua, thanks for your prayers. I did read your first post the other day about your Binders. Loved it! :-) Such great ideas and really appreciated the links for additional resources.

      Hugs,
      ~Rosann

  9. Kristie

    I'm so glad I came across your blog via VoiceBoks. What a wonderful blog...although this post brought tears to my eyes! My heart goes out to that girl's family. I am now a follower of yours on Linky Followers and display your button on my page. I am now headed off to give you a great Alexia review. I look forward to your next post and reading more of your previous posts! Blessings to you!

    • Rosann

      Thank you Kristie! I was thinking the same thing when I stumbled across your blog the other day as well! I love your blog!

      Blessings to you too!
      ~Rosann

  10. Erin Patrick

    Rosann,

    I am so sad for this family. I pray that they are ministered to and loved on...mightily. I know this was hard for Faith and for you to have to help her deal with her grief. You've been in my thoughts and prayers.
    Love you!
    ~Erin

    • Rosann

      Thanks Erin. So am I. I'm still struggling to put this nightmare - every parents nightmare - behind me. I didn't even know this girl, but my heart is just broken for the family. Faith has been praying for the family too and now several days later she is starting to ask questions. Her most recent questions were about the details of how the death is handled (since our family handled the funeral through their funeral home business - right next door to our house, no less). She wanted to know what they do with the body, who buries it, who digs the whole in the ground, why do they bury bodies...etc...etc...ya, know all those yuck details. Lol! Oh, and a local restaurant held a fundraiser night for the family. We tried to go but the line was out the door and both girls were super tired and cranky. So Faith wanted to know why the family needed money. I had to explain that funerals cost money and why they have to charge money, etc... {sigh...} I never imagined I'd have to discuss these grown up things with my six year old. Thankfully, it's not about one of her loved ones.

      Hugs,
      ~Rosann

  11. Suzanne Blair

    My Prayers are with this family. I must say as being a parent of a child that has passed it is very hard at times. My daughter had passed away at age 4. I now have a three year old daughter. I have struggled with how to handle all of this. I tell my 3 year old that she has a guardian angel named Sierra watching over her.

    I have yet to really decide how to handle or explain it. That is where God comes in, and he helps me to have the right words to say to my daughter.

    I am so sorry you all have had to experience this. Blessings!

    • Rosann

      Suzanne, thank you so much for your prayers. I'm so sorry about your daughter passing away. I can't even imagine the pain a parent goes through with the loss of a child. In fact, truth be told, I'm still really struggling with this whole thing even a week later. I didn't even know the little girl. Neither did my daughter. Why am I such an emotional wreck over this? It's like I keep imagining my child going through it and how I would respond. Perhaps it's a weird defense mechanism kicking in, in my brain? I don't know. I just think it hit a little to close to home, you know. I can't help thinking that it just as easily could have happened to my child. And how does a mother go on with life after losing her child? How does she even get out of bed? How does she not get angry with God? My heart is just broken for this family. Of course, I know the little girl is an angel with God now, so it's not the end and the story turns out beautiful with her being with God. I just don't know how her family will recover. So I'm praying for them, and I'm praying for you Suzanne. You have such a beautiful attitude and heart. Your three year old is so blessed to have you for a mommy. :-)

      Hugs my friend,
      ~Rosann

  12. Val

    Several weeks ago we had a serious tragedy in our family and there has not been any closure. There is a chance we may never get it. The lesson I have learned is to Love Today. We cannot wait until tomorrow to create memories with our kids or tell them we love them or splash recklessly through rain puddles. Love Today. XO

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