Getting To Know Your Spouse (Again…)

A strong marriage is a solid foundation for a healthy, happy family.  But let's face it, life gets hectic!

Between children, finances, long hours at work, and other daily responsibilities or stresses, the honeymoon quickly fades.  Before long we're staring at the person in bed next to us wondering when all the snuggling and spooning stopped.

And why it stopped?!

Hello...exhaustion anyone?

Intentionally Reconnect

For many couples, finding time to have a ten minute conversation that isn't interrupted by sibling battles, the telephone ringing, or some other distraction is a daily challenge.

Even after the kids are in bed, it's easier and often more appealing to plop down on the couch and lose ourselves in the latest reality TV show than to put forth the physical energy it would take to have sex.   Or the mental energy it would take to listen to stories of our spouse's day.

It's not that we're trying to be mean, it's just that we're emotionally, physically, and mentally exhausted.  Plain and simple.

Still, we need to intentionally reconnect with our spouse.  Doing so is good and healthy for both parties involved.  It's also a way of rejoicing in the God given gift of having our spouse to share life with.

Relationships that aren't nurtured eventually fizzle away.

Everyone wants to feel loved, desired, and special.  You and your spouse are no different.   A marriage that works well is one that is regularly nurtured with conversation, dates, intimacy, and romance.

Friends, our spouse needs to be a priority.

So I want to challenge you to treat your spouse to a date this weekend.

To inspire you, I've put together this handy little printable filled with some fun date ideas and conversation starter questions that will help you reconnect with and get to know your spouse (again).

To make things interesting, print a copy.  There are two per page, so you can cut the sheet in half once you print it.  Have your spouse fill out the answers he thinks you would say about yourself.   Then you fill out the answers you believe your spouse would say.  Sort of like The Newlywed Game.  :)  Have fun!!

 

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To download and print out this fun marital challenge, click on the link below.

 Getting To Know Your Spouse

Wishing you marital bliss this weekend and always!

 

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Rosann is wife to the man of her dreams and stay-at-home mom to two delightful little girls. Her heart's greatest passions are loving her family well, long-distance running, writing, and pretty much anything dark chocolate peanut butter. Rosann loves to encourage women whose husbands are in a season of unemployment, at her other website UnEmployedFaith.com. Her writing inspiration comes from a strong desire to glorify God while sharing the heart of her journey through a life of faith. She is also the Author of two books - UnEmployed Faith: Clothing Yourself in Strength and Perseverance Through his Season of Unemployment, and Refuel Your Inner SuperMom: A Practical Guide to Getting Your Groove Back.
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  1. Amber Edwards

    Rosann, that is such a fun handout! I wish I had seen this a few hours ago! We so could have done this tonight!

    Our 8 year old just asked us tonight "why do you have date night?" (Every Friday is officially date night for the husband and me). And I got to explain to him that Mommy and Daddy need time to spend with each other because life gets hectic and busy and sometimes Mommy and Daddy don't get to do a lot together. But since he's my best friend and I"m his, we need to have time set aside so we can spend time together. The 8 year old thought that was rather cool. and it is rather cool.

    No, we don't always go out, sheesh, with the price of baby sitters for 3 kids...the baby sitting is more expensive than the actual date! And with a limited College Student income, we rarely get to go out. But we set the time aside. I feed the kids and while I put them to bed, the husband goes out and gets him and me a special dinner, and then we spend the evening together without the frustration of the kids interrupting us, or him worrying about his homework. It's the one night a week when I have his attention and he has mine and it is SO wonderful. We talk, sometimes play games, or watch a movie we've been wanting to see together for a long time.

    Next week....yeah, we'll be doing your handout. Lol.

    • Rosann

      Thanks Amber!! I tried to publish earlier in the day yesterday but was having computer difficulties and then my hubby sat down in front of it to fix it for me which resulted in about 10 reboots. Then we had family movie night. So I had to wait until after our movie night was over to complete my post! Lol! Well, I hope it provides some great conversation and fun for you and your hubby. It sounds like you have such a great marriage and friendship. That's how my hubby and I are too. We love our time together. Our big date night of the week is on Saturday nights and we put the kids to bed early, stay in and watch the netflix movie of the week that he has lined up for us and enjoy a bottle of wine together. It's so wonderful. :)

      Blessings to you friend!
      ~Rosann

  2. CountryCrafting

    You are so right, life gets so heck tick we rarely take time for ourselves. I am going to print out the conversation starters and try to plan a date night this week. It ought to be interesting :) Thank You for sharing.

    • Rosann

      Have fun!! :)

  3. Regina

    This is great information to use. It has been forever since we've had a date night. And we spend a lot of time staring at each other and talking about the kids. these questions are great to get to know your spouse and things you might not know.

    • Rosann

      Regina, I so understand the lull in conversation. That's partly why I created this printable. I feel like even after being married to my husband for so many years, there are things about us that change, including our long term dreams, goals, and our current interests...etc... It's always good to stay in the know with each other. :)

  4. Audra

    What a great handout! It is so important to reconnect and so important to have those date nights. My favorite date night is just taking a glass of wine upstairs after the kids are in bed and just talking. Now the key is - to have kids that actually GO to bed!

    • Rosann

      Haha! So true, Audra. My husband and I put the kids to bed early on Saturday nights and then start our date night here at home right after they are in bed. That way they get extra sleep since they'll be up early for church the next day and the hubby and I can enjoy each other without feeling like we just want to fall asleep after a long week.

  5. Jacqueline

    Rosann I love this handout. I think it is TOO easy to forget about each other and nurturing the relationship in a marriage, especially after you have kids! This handout is such a fun lesson in how to reconnect and rekindle. Thanks for sharing!

    • Rosann

      Thanks Jacqueline! :)

  6. Deb

    Such a useful and much needed post! I need this.

  7. Rebel Sweetheart

    Reading this made me miss my husband even more!
    He's been working abroad since 2009 and being apart from your spouse for this long can be tough. Thank goodness for Skype, and mutual trust and understanding, and having God at the center of our marriage. :)

    • Rosann

      I'm sorry to make you miss your hubby even more! I don't know how you can be apart from him for so long. Praying for you and your family until you're able to be together in person again. :)

      {{{Hugs to you}}}

  8. Nikki

    thank you for your encouragement, Rosann. Always feel inspired when I leave here....

    What a great printable, friend! I'm going to use it. thank you!!

    • Rosann

      Aw, thanks Nikki! :)

  9. Courtney~Mommy LaDy Club

    Love this Rosann! My husband and I recently went on a 2 1/2 day train trip to Chicago, and shared a little sleeper car. I was thinking of how you absolutely have to get along to be able to do this, and share a little box for so long. It was a bit challenging, but really fun, and we will always have that now as one of our travel stories. Great little handout idea!

    • Rosann

      Courtney, how fun for you and your husband! I'm glad you two had a nice time and were able to get along in that little box. :)

  10. Shannon Milholland

    You know one of the habits we've formed that helps us is to frequently take a walk after dinner. At a slow pace and away from our kids, conversation unfolds easily. We connect in a way we just can't when facing the distractions of home.

    • Rosann

      Shannon, I love that habit of walking after dinner. We started that a while back, but as a family. It's nice that way too! :)

  11. Patricia Robertson

    Hello I stopped over from Voiceboks and I love this blog post. I like the date ideas. I will be trying some of these with my hubby soon.

    • Rosann

      Thanks for your visit, Patricia!

  12. The Pepperrific Life

    I wish I knew this back when I was still married :). But it's never too late to learn these things. You'll never know when I'll remarry, right? To a different man, of course.

    Now, I think I know where my ex-husband and I went wrong. But, all's good :). Thanks for sharing this :)

    • Rosann

      You are absolutely correct, it's never too late to learn how to love our spouse and keep the marriage strong. :)
      All the best to you!
      ~Rosann

  13. Christina

    I know just what you mean! And this is a great resource, thanks for sharing it!
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  15. Kari

    I just ran across your blog. Love it and especially this post!!

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