Have you ever written a love letter to your husband?
With Valentine's Day approaching, I thought writing about how to write a love letter to your husband might be just the do-something-special-for-him inspiration you (and I) need.
I realize men and women are different in the kind of gifts they like to receive from one another, but I honestly believe everyone enjoys reading heartfelt words of affirmation from their spouse. My husband wrote a love letter to me a few years ago and it's one of my most sentimental marital treasures, next to my wedding ring.
You might be thinking, that's great Rosann, but:
writing isn't my gift,
I hate to write,
I wouldn't even know where to start!
Well, dear friend, let's walk through this process together, shall we!
Oh, and before we get started let me just clarify I have not written a love letter to my husband before for one great big reason.
I'm a writer!
I've always worried that it would seem like I was throwing something artsy at him and seeking a pat on the back for how well written it is, instead of him seeing the true intent behind the letter. LOVE.
I think it's time I put those worries behind me though. My husband means the world to me and he deserves to know how much I love him. Plus (not to get all morbid) if something were to happen to one of us resulting in death, the person left behind would have something very meaningful to grasp onto in those moments of deep mourning.
Ok, enough of that. Let's get to it!
Here are some valuable things to consider when writing a love letter to your man:
Determine quality of paper for your letter.
While it's probably fine to write your letter on lined notebook paper, I encourage you to consider something a little nicer. Make it extra special. What's his favorite color? Maybe you can find some fancy paper in the scrapbook section of your local craft store or check at Staples to see what kind of quality stationary paper they offer. Do they have nice envelopes to match the paper? That might add a nice touch to the finished product. Or you can roll the letter up and tie a pretty ribbon around it.
Typed or Hand Written?
There's no right or wrong answer here. I think hand written adds a more personal touch, but typing it removes any editing mishaps and makes for a cleaner read. There are some really fun fonts you can experiment with as well. Just make sure it's a font that's easy on the eyes or your message will go unread. If you decide to type it, experiment with line spacing. There's nothing worse than trying to read a never ending sea of black. Keep paragraphs short (2-3 sentences) and make sure your spelling/grammar check is turned on. You don't want your husband editing your words as he reads them.
Consider how long of a letter to write.
Does your husband enjoy reading? Does he have a short attention span? Will your heartfelt words become more like bathroom reading material? These are all things to think about when you determine how long you want your letter to be. Write it for your husband and his personality, not for yourself. The letter my husband wrote me a while back was about 3 typed pages with what looked like 1.5 spacing between lines. It was perfect! In fact, I loved reading it and would have been thrilled if it would have been longer.
How can you make your letter interesting and fun?
- You could start each paragraph with a descriptive word for why you love him...and maybe the first letter of that word would spell out his name as he reads down the page.
- You could write 100 reasons why...I love you...you make me smile...you turn me on...
- You could write a bucket list of things you'd like to do with him in the years to come.
- You could simply write from the heart, sharing how much you love him, how he's changed your life for the better, how much you appreciate him, and all of his amazing qualities you find so attractive.
Brainstorm descriptive words or phrases to include in the letter.
Ask yourself what his strengths are. How would you describe his physical appearance? How does he make you feel when you're with him? What kind of things does he do that make you feel loved? What are his values like? Jot these thoughts down in your journal for quick reference when you're ready to write.
Don't over think it. Just start writing. Don't even edit until you've gotten everything you have to say out of your head and onto paper or screen. Then walk away from it for a few hours or overnight. When you approach it the second time, you'll quickly see where and how you can change it. Also, try reading the words out loud to check for readability. If you have a hard time speaking the letter, your husband will have a hard time reading it.
What love letter tips do you have? I'd love for you to share. Have you ever been on the receiving end of a love letter?
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